When Texas residents think of divorce, they might picture a tense, angry situation, resolved through screaming matches and a long trial, particularly if the marriage broke down due to similar situations and emotions. However, even if spouses struggled to make their relationship work, they can approach divorce in a different way, and find a resolution that is fair, balanced and benefits the parties involved, particularly if the spouses have children together.
Remember that divorce affects the whole family
The adults going through the divorce all not the only ones suffering through the anxiety, fear, anger and sadness that accompany divorce. Often, the children of the divorcing couple also struggle to come to terms with the end of the marriage. They might even blame themselves. This might be further complicated if the parents are focused on their own emotions about their ex, forgetting that their ex is also their children’s other parent.
Protecting the children should come first
As adults, however, the parents can choose to approach the divorce differently by remembering to be empathic towards their ex-spouse’s feelings and their children’s feelings, thereby protecting the children’s emotional well-being. Some of the things they can do include:
• Remaining calm during conversations with their ex-spouse
• Willingly collaborating with the other parent to reach a resolution to the divorce issues
• Providing their children with a safe space for them to explore their feelings about the divorce
• Allowing the children to have some choices in the changes that will inevitably come from the divorce
It might be tempting to bring up every perceived or real hurt caused by a soon-to-be ex-spouse during the divorce proceedings. However, this only complicates the whole process and again, can be harmful to the children. Leaving the past behind is important if you are committed to moving forward, particularly if you are going to continue co-parenting your children.